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for constantly updated news, reviews, and views Invite Joan to present an upbeat, spicy talk or workshop to your group. Sexually Seasoned Women I had the privilege of interviewing dozens of women over sixty who were willing to discuss their sexuality, past and present, for my book, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty (Seal Press, 2006). Bea, 77, is having the best sex of her life with a man thirty years younger. Claire, 66, has fallen in love with a woman she met online, and has relocated to be with her. Penny, 60, celebrated the birthday of her husband of 38 years by shaving her yoni and dancing for him. Sweet Talker, 65, works as a "phone sex fantasist," playing the role of a 29-year-old model. Rachel, 62, pleasures herself in an elegant ritual. Here are a few samples from Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty (Seal Press, 2006): What a surprise--someone wants me to talk about sex after sixty. I would be more than happy to tell the world about such joy. I spent fifty years of my life not knowing if I had a right to what I felt, shamed by my sexual feelings. Now I can feel sexual when and where I want to. I feel better about myself than I ever expected-- willing to make love in those ways I always fantasized but never had the courage to do before. (Claire, 66) When I was single and my grown son was out of the house, I had a mad, passionate love affair with myself. I got fabulous lingerie and bought myself champagne. Me and a vibrator. Some days nobody else can do it like you. (Monica, 60) It had been ten years since I was sexually active, and frankly I thought I was finished with it all. I joined a gym to get my poor, pathetic body into something resembling a woman. Then post-menopausal zest hit me with a huge wave of pure lust. I had this overwhelming urge to jump my trainer! I told him and he was very charming about it, but nothing happened. I ultimately transferred to another gym and decided that I needed to get back in action. Right now I am having the time of my life. Since I only have so much time left I'm going for the gold! (Kaycee, 66) As a young woman, I was reluctant to tell a man what I liked. Now, at this age, I find these older men are very adept at finding out your secret wishes. (Melanie, 64) Prostate surgery has been a big challenge for my husband. Getting through that, restructuring our sexuality, reassuring him that I'm okay with how it is now (he uses Viagra and a cock ring)--all that took time. But I love the emotional connection we have, and that's the most important thing. We kiss, we fondle, we talk, we joke. Most of the time, we can have intercourse, and if we can't, so what? (Tina, 61) After I separated from my husband, I really came alive. Basically, I thought I'd never be interested in sex again. But I was interested in sex, just not with my husband. I started becoming ravenous about men again, as I had been in my thirties. All this desire came flooding back--pent-up demand after all those years of no sexual satisfaction. I had been very sexual in my thirties, and this was just as good, sometimes better. It was quite a revelation. (Erica, 62) After sixty, it's not downhill. It's still uphill when it comes to sex, only (just like a car) it slows down just a little and the hill may seem a little steeper sometimes. (Ulla, 61) I have earned the wrinkles, rolls and sags, varicose veins and gray hair and I feel blessed to be alive and healthy and to have loved and lived for sixty-four years. (Jill, 64)
Order an autographed copy of Better Than I Ever Expected today. Excerpt used by permission
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